Believe in Yourself.

 You have a worth and a value. 

You have to set standards for yourself. 

Draw a line if you will, and limit 'how much' you will put up with before your line is crossed.

Know when you are being disrespected and don't allow yourself to tolerate beyond your limit. 

Once you let your standards down, and allow people to step over the limit, they will continue to do so. They will push your line further and further away from where you had it set. Eventually you will have lost all respect and begin losing your own self-respect.  

 Remember you have a worth and a value.

You have to stand up for yourself, even if it means letting go of others in your circle.

It's okay to walk away, push people out and get rid of those that bring negativity to you.

 IF you are not being held up as the person you are,

you are being drug down by someone who doesn't deserve your companionship.

 You owe no one nothing, if you have given respect and done your part as a good person.

It doesn't matter how much someone does for you, as long as you are doing all you can, when you can to help them in return.

 You owe it to your children to be a good parent, but you do not need to allow yourself to be walked over and put down by your own children. You are a parent, not their friend. 

 You can be in a marriage, a partner, a friend. That doesn't mean you owe yourself worth to the other person. You do your fair share and have the right to expect the same respect and help in return. Don't allow yourself to become enslaved to the relationship. 

 It doesn't work if one gives all and the other takes all. 

Relationships of all kinds - need balance. Equality. Respect. Fairness. 

 Believe in yourself. You may be better off alone than in a situation that makes you feel less than who you are. 

 If someone doesn't respect you, no number of apologize will change anything. The only thing that is going to happen, is they are going to continue to disrespect you, and it will get worse with each incident.

 Once someone walks over your standards "the line" they will continue to push the line back to where they are all it and you are nothing. 

 Believe in yourself and walk away, let go, close the door. It isn't going to get any better, only worse for you. 

 They will thrive on their dominance over you all while belittling you to nothing. 

You are worth more than that. You have a value; you are a good person. Don't let yourself be used as anything less.

Blessed by God

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Time is the Best Gift to Give.

 

The best gifts you can give your mum, don't cost anything.  

They are probably the gifts she wants the most. 

• Spend time with her. Just a visit. 
• Invite her to lunch or dinner. She loves your cooking.
• Tell her Thank You. Show that you appreciate her sacrifices.
• A simple phone call. Your voice means so much more than a text.
• A meet up at the park. Playing with her grandchildren is time she enjoys.
• Sharing school pictures of the grandchildren.
• Homemade cards from the little ones. Handmade means so much to her. 
• Remind her of your gratitude, that she was always there for you. Good, bad and everything in between.
• Apologize for the mistakes you have made. Blaming her for you're bad choices.

There are so many little things you can do, that we often overlook daily. Your mom was there for you. 9 months of letting her body hurt, be torn down and the pain of your birth. She sacrificed sleep, the money to spend on herself, and many a hot meal.  Giving up so much of her time to each one of her children.

 She gave up a career to take 'simple jobs' just so she could be there for you after school. Laundry was a mountain always erupting, yet you had clean clothes every day of the week.  Dinner was hot and fresh on the table. The house kept warm and safe for you to sleep. 

 Things might have happened, and life turned upside down, but she never gave up, never walked away and never left you behind.  Every time you ran away the door opened upon your return, no matter how much pain you caused in leaving. 

 Some moms fought the good fight in court to keep you safe. Whether she won or lost, she never gave up on you. Many nights she cried in pain, her heart broken. Regretting the choice, she made of who should be your father.  Many moms became mom and dad, doing all she could to fill the void. 

So many moms gave up so much of themselves for their children. Only to have their children 'too busy' to give back any appreciation in return.

 Give your mom the time she deserves. Appreciate her sacrifices. Enjoy her love while you still can. She won't be here forever. Once she's gone, she won't be back. 

Love her while you still can. 

Blessed by God

I miss my mom @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails.