There was a love and a unity that my children never got to see or feel, or learn how to be part of. No matter what our differences were - we were family, and we could always count on each other to be there.
The doors never closed between us. We made mistakes and we were always there to pick each other up. Nobody ever stabbed anyone in the back or purposely caused pain to another. We defended each other against anyone and everything. We let no one come between us. We had each others back, always. We never turned our back on each other.
We honored our parents, and did all we could to never bring shame, dishonor or pain into the circle. There was pride in the family name, a sense of duty to uphold the standards. We knew who we were and we stood for something good. Family meant something to each of us. Always.
Shortly after this the first one passed away, then one by one, until there is only the last one standing. Left alone in this world. Wishing so many things could have been different. So many times wishing that just one more time you could see them. Feel the love, the unity, the togetherness. Knowing that no matter what, someone had your back.
To be left standing alone.
Familys are different now
You do the best you can and no one is perfect. Some will understand your heart, others will try to stab it every chance they get. Some will come to you and ask while others will jump to conclusions or believe the lies and judge.
No where in the book does it say a parent is perfect. We are human, we make mistakes. We love and we try. We sacrifice everything of ourselves for them. You can't please everyone all the time. You can't put one above the others. You have to do what's best for all. And sometimes, that isn't good enough for some.
It amazes me how some kids can forgive the one who was never there. The one that truly abused them. The ones that are selfish and disregard the children they brought into this world, while holding the one that was there to the standard of perfection. You are not allowed to make mistakes. You are expected to get it right all the time. But the flake can flake off over and over again, and somehow - that too is 'your fault'.
Fascinating how raised together they can all turn out so different. See the same thing in different colors.
As I've always said. God knows my heart, God knows the truth. Some day they will each face God for their own judgement of their own actions. Someday the truth will play out and they will know - just how wrong they were.
I pity the people that pit children against their parents, the ones that come between loved ones and tear families apart. God knows. It isn't karma that will take them down, it's judgement day. They know who they are they know what they have done. I pity them.
Everyone has the right to live in peace. It's understandable when one must walk away and shut the door on some. When someone is trying to take your life, you need to walk away and not look back. But to shut someone out that has done nothing but love you, is wrong. To jerk children away from family because of your own personal issues is wrong. There is a difference between using your children as pawns and protecting your children from someone that has hurt them.
You only get one family in this life. Blood is thicker than water. Sadly we live in a world where people would rather throw family away and make excuses to exclude them. Rather than teach our children to love and be a part of something bigger.
To be FAMILY.
I had 3 brothers, one was severely mentally ill. Yes, life can be hard when one child is 'different' than the others. That is really no excuse not to teach your children to love them as much as the others. To get along and overlook their hardships. Walking away, excluding and avoiding them, teaches your children to judge and be cold hearted. It's heartbreaking to see families grow so far apart, when as a parent you work so hard to teach them to be a team and work together.
Someday when they are the last man standing, they will regret the loss of those they pushed away.
Blessed by God
Life's about family @ the Bright Side of the Barn
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